http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/main-blog-posts/havent-been-my-normal-self Sat, 19 May 2012 12:36:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/main-blog-posts/havent-been-my-normal-self/comment-page-1#comment-315 Libby Thu, 11 Feb 2010 14:03:46 +0000 http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/?p=235#comment-315 Thinking about you... Thinking about you…

]]> http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/main-blog-posts/havent-been-my-normal-self/comment-page-1#comment-314 Melinda Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:00:26 +0000 http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/?p=235#comment-314 I'm sorry for your dashed dream... I never wanted children either, yet when the gyn said I needed a hysterectomy and that having kids would be difficult, I was disappointed. I still do not want children, but just having the possibility or choice stripped away FROM me... it hurt. I would rather it be my choice, and not someone else's whether it by a doctor or good ole Mother Nature! Hopefully there will be lots of other options for you, and if not... I'm sure some dear friends would let you borrow their infant! LOL... Just teasin... Have a wonderful day, friend! I’m sorry for your dashed dream… I never wanted children either, yet when the gyn said I needed a hysterectomy and that having kids would be difficult, I was disappointed. I still do not want children, but just having the possibility or choice stripped away FROM me… it hurt. I would rather it be my choice, and not someone else’s whether it by a doctor or good ole Mother Nature! Hopefully there will be lots of other options for you, and if not… I’m sure some dear friends would let you borrow their infant! LOL… Just teasin… Have a wonderful day, friend!

]]> http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/main-blog-posts/havent-been-my-normal-self/comment-page-1#comment-305 hannie Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:51:32 +0000 http://bariatriccommunity.com/blog/?p=235#comment-305 Thank you for posting this. Seriously, thank you. I've been trying to point this out to others for years and either I get the "eyes rolling to the back of the head" or the "yea, hannie, you're SO FULL OF IT". Unfortunately, if you think about it, having a RNY procedure done...the main idea...is that you are physically restricted from eating more than you should & you're malabsorbing what you're eating. The malabsorption causes the dumping that makes you have to be accountable and responsible for every bite you eat. With saying that, all of us have heard the "when you're pregnant, you're eating for two". Now how can you eat for two if one, you literally cannot because your digestive system has been permanently altered to eat for less than one? Two, how can you eat for two if you're already malabsorbing the nutrients necessary for YOU to exist and are already taking vitamins/supplements and can easily bottom out the scale of proper nutrient values? Crap, here comes three. With my saying the first two, could you honestly feel good about carrying a baby to term and risking that baby's health? That last question hurts more than you know, because I've sat in infertility clinics listening to the struggles that women face in trying to conceive in the first place and how they tried to wade through years of red tape in adopting a child. I've sat at countless support group (bariatric) meetings where women straight out state that they had surgery so that they could lose the weight and hopefully conceive and have a baby. I am incredibly blessed to have two babies of my own, before surgery and they've had to sit by my side through my own bariatric hell, for which I never ever intended them to do so. The pain of knowing/hearing/being told that no, you should not have a baby because it would not only harm the baby but leave yourself in bad shape as well is devastating, at the very least. Reading and hearing about those post operatively who are carrying/having children, I pray that they both come out super well and super healthy. Thank you for posting this. Seriously, thank you. I’ve been trying to point this out to others for years and either I get the “eyes rolling to the back of the head” or the “yea, hannie, you’re SO FULL OF IT”. Unfortunately, if you think about it, having a RNY procedure done…the main idea…is that you are physically restricted from eating more than you should & you’re malabsorbing what you’re eating. The malabsorption causes the dumping that makes you have to be accountable and responsible for every bite you eat. With saying that, all of us have heard the “when you’re pregnant, you’re eating for two”. Now how can you eat for two if one, you literally cannot because your digestive system has been permanently altered to eat for less than one? Two, how can you eat for two if you’re already malabsorbing the nutrients necessary for YOU to exist and are already taking vitamins/supplements and can easily bottom out the scale of proper nutrient values? Crap, here comes three. With my saying the first two, could you honestly feel good about carrying a baby to term and risking that baby’s health? That last question hurts more than you know, because I’ve sat in infertility clinics listening to the struggles that women face in trying to conceive in the first place and how they tried to wade through years of red tape in adopting a child. I’ve sat at countless support group (bariatric) meetings where women straight out state that they had surgery so that they could lose the weight and hopefully conceive and have a baby. I am incredibly blessed to have two babies of my own, before surgery and they’ve had to sit by my side through my own bariatric hell, for which I never ever intended them to do so. The pain of knowing/hearing/being told that no, you should not have a baby because it would not only harm the baby but leave yourself in bad shape as well is devastating, at the very least. Reading and hearing about those post operatively who are carrying/having children, I pray that they both come out super well and super healthy.

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