A friend apologizing

[BerriGirl]

I had a friend the other night after reading my website, email me and apologize to me for being such an awful friend throughout the years when I was dealing with this...She never realized what I was actually going through and now feels extremely guilty...Which in a way I don't feel bad that she feels awful about it, but then I'm not the type of person that want others to feel bad either...So I guess it's a catch 22...

Should I continue to talk to her and explain things or just not worry about it??

[naturegirl]

Is she reading this?

Cuz I'd have to question how much of a friend she was to begin with for not sticking by you no matter if you rambled nonsense or common sense....being a friend means listening, trying to understand as much as possible, and even if you don't understand it you still give that shoulder to cry or lean on....

I know you did for her, didn't you?

Amazing how often we let people step on our feelings in order to not hurt theirs 

[AngKam]

You can try and see how things go.. at least she's making an effort now. Sucks it took so long. I think when people don't see us every day they don't realize what we go through. And often we forget to share good news when we talk to our friends. I'm guilty of it too. I often apologize to my friends for being negative about how I'm feeling, but it's hard to remain positive all the time. And on those good days, I'm often too busy enjoying myself to tell my friend about it HAHA!

The thing is I don't even really have a good friend anymore that listens to me. My friend texts me for conversation.. never over the phone. It's hurt my feelings to many times that I've just given into the fact that she'll never fully be there for me.

We complain to each other about our problems and I guess that's what we'll always be about.

So I guess before you call it quits, give it some time to see if she truly means it.

[BerriGirl]

You will always have a place here...And I truly mean that...

And your right, I can try to start our friendship up again...But I'm also scared of getting hurt again...I have been down that road so many times...That is why I hope we can all build new friendships and just listen to one another...Be a support group...Ya know...

[TraciKnoppe]

Honestly - folks just don't 'get it' because we 'look' fine on the outside. So they don't think it's a real illness or issues we're dealing with.

Quite honestly, I'm not sure that most bariatric surgeon's themselves really 'get it'. They are trained to do the surgery - they are not trained in post-op care.

[BerriGirl]

I could have not said it any better...You hit the nail on that one big time...That is why we need to share our experiences and support each other...Cause it's hard and no one fully understands unless they live it...